What is Emotional Intelligence?
It is the ability for you to identify and manage your emotions, and the emotions of others. It’s always important to note that every individual has their emotions and the understanding of this guides your productivity.
Emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive, control, evaluate emotions, and this begins with what is called self- and social awareness which helps to recognize emotions (and their impact) in both yourself and others.
It would be necessary to ask a few questions like: what is my emotional strengths and weaknesses? Does my mood affect my decision making and thinking prowess? Do I have to react to what everyone says or do? With responses to these questions at heart, you can yield definite insights that can be used to your advantage.
Researchers suggest that emotional intelligence can be learned and strengthened, while others claim it’s an inborn characteristics, which makes it really sad to have low emotional intelligence.
There is a moment where you pause. This is as simple as taking a moment to stop and think before you speak or act. When you pause it helps you refrain from making a permanent decision based on a temporary emotion.There are three basic skills of emotional intelligence:
- Emotional awareness.
- The ability to identify and name your emotions; the ability to control those emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problem solving; and
- The ability to manage emotions, which includes both regulating one’s own emotions when necessary and cheering up or calming down other people.
- Are you defensive when criticized?
- Can you stay calm under pressure?
- Do you handle setbacks effectively?
- How do you manage anxiety, stress, anger, and fear in pursuit of a goal?
- How do you utilize criticism and other feedback for growth?
- Do you try to see things from other’s perspective?
- I can freely admit to making a mistake?
- I can listen without jumping to judgment?
- When I speak, people understand what I mean not what they should hear?